Tuesday, 2 April 2013

The 'Fool' Speaks!

April Fool's Day came and went. As children, my brother and I utilized this day to play pranks on one another and see who would be the bigger "fool" between the two of us. As we grew up, like other childish games, this tradition too fizzled out. Today, when I look back, I smile as I think about how foolish we were! Or were we really?

Life was simple. We used to fight but quickly make up. No one harboured any ill feelings. Neither of us liked the idea of having to share our favourite chocolate but we still grudgingly gave a piece to our other friends in the building. We were happy in our own world and there were no cares or worries on our shoulders. We did not bother about what someone else thought about us nor did we fret about not getting something we wanted.

Today, when I look around, everyone seems so dissatisfied. The job is not right, relationships are not working and everyone feels that no one cares for them!

As a person, I am quite sensitive and I have a tendency of, sometimes, putting others before self. My close friends often feel that I am taken for granted and they often advise me to refrain from believing in the best of people. I admit that there have been people in the past that I have helped, and the consequences of that have not been good for me, but that does not really affect me beyond a point. Whenever I have explained this to people, they find it difficult to understand what I mean. Sometimes, they just dismiss it saying that I am, probably, very “sensitive” because I belong to the “helping profession”. Others just label me to be an "emotional fool". I find myself getting exasperated each time I hear these statements.

I feel the problem lies in the fact that we are always doing things with the intention of reaping benefits for our self. We join an organization because it pays well, not because we want to take it to great heights.  We shower a person with love hoping that, in return, the person will bestow us with the same amount of affection, if not more. How many of us actually engage with people with the intention of making them realize their true potential?

At some level, all of us are hungry for love, acceptance, and some amount of recognition. The Universe is wise. She ensures that we enter a person’s life not to receive all the things that we are craving but to give the other person all that it is that he or she desires. Whenever we enter any external space, I feel our motive should just be to nurture and love. We’ve all, at some point, wanted someone to lift us from the ground where we’ve fallen so that we can continue to move ahead in life but how many of us are ready to be that person for someone else? If helping a person get back on his or her feet makes that person build a special bond with you, it is wonderful; but is it really a good idea to make that the most important motive?

At the end of the day, it is always a good idea to reflect on why is it that we are doing what we are doing. Are we doing something with the hope of getting something for ourselves in return or are we doing something solely with the intention of helping the other person out?

Aren’t we all fools then to think that we have entered another person’s space to make them love us? Instead, it is the other way around – we are there to make that person feel that they are worthy of being loved. It’s not about making another person love you or see how important you are! It is about helping another person get in touch with his or her own inner light that ignites his or her soul - he or she is going to be grateful for it always!

Only if we are a blessing to someone, will that someone be a blessing to us one day. That is the law of ‘karma’. The true purpose of one’s life should be to touch the lives of others in a way that could not be achieved otherwise, if one wants someone else to make a difference in one’s world.

Fool’s Day is over. It is now the time to adapt a wiser perspective to life. What is your outlook?

20 comments:

  1. Very well written. In this world everything is quid pro quo. If we all realize our actions touch the lives of many people, we all will be making the right decision at all times.

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    1. Thank You and what you said is true :) We need to be aware of the way we influence others :) Perhaps that would infuse in us a further sense of responsibility :)

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  2. Lovely, my dear!
    Enjoy your journey!

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  3. Hey.. Ur writing is getting better and fresher by th day. Really liked it. Kp it up. :) - Ashok

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  4. what a lovely and profound thought!
    I agree that we are getting so much enveloped in ourselves and the only question we ponder upon is "what's in for me?" Lighting another person's life seems so much like a waste of energy, sigh!

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    1. Yes, I feel it is high time we stopped asking, "What's in it for me?"

      What is in store for you will come without you having to search frantically for it!

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  5. A wiser perspective, now that's a relative term. What seems wise to one may not be wise to others, and there lies the confusion :-)

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  6. Love what you've written, very profound thinking! My problem is also with relationships, rather friendships, where both are biding time, and then I wonder what a sheer waste of energy and time!

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    1. Thanks dear :)
      I have had my fair share of trouble with friendships - today I just let things be :) What is meant to last will always work out in the end!

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  7. No wonder I love the olden days more than now... I so wish I never came out of the 80s :D

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    1. Ha!Ha! I actually like the present times :P Am sure every age has its pros and cons!

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  8. Today we need to be a lot more careful with people even though they might be close to us! It is always nice to stop once in a while and think upon our very purpose for existence!

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    1. Yes, it is not wise to trust everyone but it's not easy to enjoy life if one is wary always...

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  10. Divya, these are different times. The mantra now is "I", "Me" "Myself". Most kids today are single children and most families nuclear. So there is no concept of sharing. Therefore life becomes self centric and when self gratification does not yield satisfaction people feel discontented.

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    1. I do agree that when there is only one child, it is difficult to learn sharing...We are moving into a more individualistic world but I feel seeing yourself as a blessing in another person's life will actually help you in enriching the quality of your own life!

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